Are you really into church?

Bill is having internet trouble at church so I decided to surprise him by updating his blog. Many of you already know me as his wife, but I am so much more. I'm a mom, a bank employee, a sister, a daughter and a friend but mostly you know me as "the pastors wife".



Savoring a role as a pastor's wife, in past times has been, well, unsavory and is a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes I want to stick my head in the sand, but after 10 years I am getting used to the idea although the joy of the role eludes me from time to time. I have seen and heard almost every imaginable story and horror that families can live through and I have seen the joys. I wish I could say that for the most part the joys outweigh the tragedies but I can't.



It's strange. Most people you see only outside the church walls, but still refer to my husband as their "pastor". Some we have only seen in church maybe 5 times in 10 years. They need someone for the "marrying and the burying" and straightening out wayward children after they have allowed them to live as they wanted to with no spiritual example. I have actually heard this. " since my child___________isn't really into church anymore, we are not going to be coming". Sent via email to Bill. We were blindsided by this as this person had just commited to an important role in our church. His children were "ruling the proverbial roost" in his home and he just couldn't take the pressure. These children are 14 and 9. This is not so much about church than it is about an example to lead. This is tragic. We all need to be an example and help our children learn commitment, responsibility and loyalty from us. Afterall, eternity is at stake and we as parents can do nothing about it on the other side, so we must do all we can here.

Go forth and lead,

Deana

“A good example is the best sermon.”
Benjamin Franklin